Not too long ago, there was a discussion on one of the facebook groups I am a part of. The discussion was what was the "normal" frequency of sex within a marriage. The answers ranged from not having sex for almost a year to sex two to three times a day every day! That just goes to prove that there isn't a "normal".
I will say, however, that the Bible gives some insight into this.
1 Corinthians 7:5
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
This tells us that we should not deny our bodies from our spouses for "a time" without it being consensual and for giving more time spent with the Lord. I would say that most likely, if it has been a few weeks or more (and there isn't a medical reason) that one of the spouses isn't giving his/her consent and that it isn't because you are giving all that time to fasting and prayer.
We also see in Amos that for a couple to walking the married life together, they must be in agreement.
Amos 3:3
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
I am not telling you that you need to have more sex in your marriage, but I am saying that it is worth having a discussion with your spouse about it. Marriage is so much better when both spouses are on the same page and working towards the same goal.
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